Grief, my dear, has no time limit. You could forget the sound of their voice, and the tempos to their laughter, but one little (very little) thing can set the timer on again and reel you back to the past.
My advice to you. Don't feel ashamed when it happens, or wonder why you can't just get over it. That's life. Rather embrace it. Cry all you want sitting down on the floor in a frat party. Speak all the warbled Vietnamese. Allow your mind to be still and calm like your physical being.
Feeling is what we need the most in grief. Permitting it to thrive heals us in ways we do not see.
Wow. So delicately written, with an inspirational tone that doesn’t feel cliche or self-helpy!! I relate heavily, it feels like I’ve blinked and opened up to university graduation. It’s hard to not grieve the wasted potential and ‘wasted’ time. But times never wasted when we relinquish control of it
i totally understand the feeling of grieving time lost! but i have hope we'll reframe and re-learn how to think about the way time passes; thank you for reading <3
this is truly amazing. you've described and explained how it feels to be stuck and not knowing what to do as time passes by. i'm also a college student so i also sometimes feel like im wasting my time. but i hope you know that you're destined for greatness. time can be just as forgiving as it is cruel and you illustrate that perfectly. onto healing together ♥️
onto healing together! it means so much that my writing resonated with you, even though the feeling of being stagnant as time passes by you is so bittersweet. thank you for reading, and wishing you all the best <3
"there is so much guilt that stems from the notion that who i am now is something that i’ve inflicted on myself." woah, that hit hard. i'm currently finding myself in this mindset as well. i love your note on movement at the end of your essay - new and necessary is the best way to describe moving on from change. thank you for this piece :)
it means so much that that quote in particular resonated with you; it's definitely something that i've grappled with a lot recently, and i hope this piece could make you feel a bit less alone in that odd feeling of guilt and regret <3
goodness, what a beautiful and poignant read. grappling with the loss of somebody near to you is challenging, especially in those seemingly far-removed moments when you feel like you should be over it. wishing you well and sooo excited to keep reading your work!
Thank you for these words, they resonate so much with my life. Even though we are in different moments of it, the feeling of time passing so fast, of losing time, of not changing even when the seasons do – these are things I feel too. And as I feel them, they make me tremble on a daily basis.
I live with a deep discomfort when I see other people’s lives moving forward while mine stays uncertain and unclear. I don’t know where I’m going, I don’t know if what I’ve done was right for me, and I don’t even know if what I’m doing now is good for my future – and which future, anyway? I know nothing.
I hope I can find a way to deal with myself better. I hope you’ll find yours too.
Wow, it means so so much to me that my words resonated with you. It definitely is a tough thing to grapple with feeling like you are stuck even as everything around you is changing so fast. Slowly, though, I believe we'll both be able to find our own ways forward. Thank you for reading and supporting <3
I really connected with your reflection on time as both fluid and elusive. The way you reframed it through Cha’s idea of “new movement” felt like a quiet reminder that even stillness carries momentum.
I'm so glad you connected with this part of the essay! I wrote the part about Dictee in such a hurry, I wasn't sure if anyone would understand what I was trying to explain but you understood it so well. That's an amazing way to put it - as stillness carrying momentum <3
what beautiful writing. thank u for sharing ur vulnerability with us ❤️🩹
thank you for reading <3
Such beautiful piece🤍
thank you <3
I love this, so beautifully written
thank you so much <3
Your writing is very beautiful and poetic. I felt transported through your words. Thank you for sharing this. Can't wait to read what's next ! 🤍
thank you so much for reading! <3
This was simply wonderful to read :,)
thank you <3 i'm so glad you enjoyed
Grief, my dear, has no time limit. You could forget the sound of their voice, and the tempos to their laughter, but one little (very little) thing can set the timer on again and reel you back to the past.
My advice to you. Don't feel ashamed when it happens, or wonder why you can't just get over it. That's life. Rather embrace it. Cry all you want sitting down on the floor in a frat party. Speak all the warbled Vietnamese. Allow your mind to be still and calm like your physical being.
Feeling is what we need the most in grief. Permitting it to thrive heals us in ways we do not see.
yes, grief is sometimes nonlinear and sometimes irrational and sometimes all you can do is feel it <3 thank you so much for reading and sharing
You're welcome ♥️♥️
I saw “So Far Gone” and liked immediately 😭. This is a beautiful piece!
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Wow. So delicately written, with an inspirational tone that doesn’t feel cliche or self-helpy!! I relate heavily, it feels like I’ve blinked and opened up to university graduation. It’s hard to not grieve the wasted potential and ‘wasted’ time. But times never wasted when we relinquish control of it
i totally understand the feeling of grieving time lost! but i have hope we'll reframe and re-learn how to think about the way time passes; thank you for reading <3
wait cuz why am i tearing up...
this is truly amazing. you've described and explained how it feels to be stuck and not knowing what to do as time passes by. i'm also a college student so i also sometimes feel like im wasting my time. but i hope you know that you're destined for greatness. time can be just as forgiving as it is cruel and you illustrate that perfectly. onto healing together ♥️
onto healing together! it means so much that my writing resonated with you, even though the feeling of being stagnant as time passes by you is so bittersweet. thank you for reading, and wishing you all the best <3
I LOVE YOUR WORDS! I relate much 💒
thank you so much!! <3
I loved this. Navigating one's relationship with time as a form of grief and power. What a powerful concept.
yes! the negotiation between grief and agency in relationship to time is such a good way to put it, thank you for reading <3
"there is so much guilt that stems from the notion that who i am now is something that i’ve inflicted on myself." woah, that hit hard. i'm currently finding myself in this mindset as well. i love your note on movement at the end of your essay - new and necessary is the best way to describe moving on from change. thank you for this piece :)
it means so much that that quote in particular resonated with you; it's definitely something that i've grappled with a lot recently, and i hope this piece could make you feel a bit less alone in that odd feeling of guilt and regret <3
goodness, what a beautiful and poignant read. grappling with the loss of somebody near to you is challenging, especially in those seemingly far-removed moments when you feel like you should be over it. wishing you well and sooo excited to keep reading your work!
thank you, this means so much to me <3
Thank you for these words, they resonate so much with my life. Even though we are in different moments of it, the feeling of time passing so fast, of losing time, of not changing even when the seasons do – these are things I feel too. And as I feel them, they make me tremble on a daily basis.
I live with a deep discomfort when I see other people’s lives moving forward while mine stays uncertain and unclear. I don’t know where I’m going, I don’t know if what I’ve done was right for me, and I don’t even know if what I’m doing now is good for my future – and which future, anyway? I know nothing.
I hope I can find a way to deal with myself better. I hope you’ll find yours too.
In the meantime, I’m giving you a hug. 🐞
Wow, it means so so much to me that my words resonated with you. It definitely is a tough thing to grapple with feeling like you are stuck even as everything around you is changing so fast. Slowly, though, I believe we'll both be able to find our own ways forward. Thank you for reading and supporting <3
I really connected with your reflection on time as both fluid and elusive. The way you reframed it through Cha’s idea of “new movement” felt like a quiet reminder that even stillness carries momentum.
I'm so glad you connected with this part of the essay! I wrote the part about Dictee in such a hurry, I wasn't sure if anyone would understand what I was trying to explain but you understood it so well. That's an amazing way to put it - as stillness carrying momentum <3
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You write really well and I love the aesthetic!!
girl!! our bios are quite similar. from one overthinker to another i just subscribed and would love to support writing with similar energy <3
AW you're so sweet; yes I'm so excited to keep up with what you write next as well!